Weekly Substack AMA #1

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Q: “You have a ton of great info on shot selection (what to say, what to do, how to act). Any thoughts on the importance of target selection? Feel like doing the right things with the wrong girl doesn’t work and you end the night with no leads.”

It looks like your question is: how do I know I’m talking to the right girl or how do I pick the right girl to talk to. Depends what you’re looking for. So make a list of the traits you’re looking for in girls. Then when you’re talking to them, see if they have those traits. And if they do, you can tell them. When you’re actually screening girls for certain criteria (rather than just taking whatever you can get) it raises your perceived value. Aka she’ll think you’re cooler.

Q: Do you put a certain dating intention for hinge or you just put all?

I hide most of those from my profile. (On hinge I check the box for “hide from profile” for most things. I don’t really want to give girls a reason to not match me. I’d rather get more matches then talk to them and see their profiles and filter from there rather than being filtered by them because they saw some info on my profile that I could’ve had hidden.

Q: Got any tips on cold approaching in college? Cus a lot of these girls you’re gonna end up seeing again in the library or the campus gym, etc

I’d say just send it and don’t worry about that. Chances are you’ll be fine. This question is most likely coming from someone who has done very few approaches total. So once you do like 100+ daytime approaches see how it’s going and then decide if you want to keep doing it or not. You’ll probably be fine, though. One thing you can do is go a little indirect and then compliment them to avoid like violent blowouts in front of people or “soften the landing” a bit. “Hey you’re in my class! Oh I like your outfit btw..”

Q: how to pull if your logistics are bad? do you try to pull to her’s or a hotel?

Well on the date you want to be seeing what her situation is like a little bit. If she has a place that makes sense, try hers, if not, get a hotel or your car. Try to have the date close to your place to avoid this. Or get better logistics.

Q: Hey Peter, I had a question about the hinge masterclass. What if some of my personal philosophy’s don’t align with the ones taught in you masterclass. For example I don’t drink at all and don’t want a girl who would drink ever. How would I personally adjust my strategy for that occasion as one of the things you said was take her to a bar, but I don’t go to them.

You should instantly be screening for drinking then all the time. The vast majority of girls will drink. So one of the first things you should ask new women you’re meeting is do you drink? If that truly is a dealbreaker for you. Alcohol does make dates easier, I will say. It is a social lubricant and has been for millennia. So if you don’t drink it will probably be more difficult than if you do. Not to say you can’t have sex. You can. All the same principles apply, you would just be taking them to get food, dessert, smoothies and then pulling back with a different excuse: tea, the view, board game etc.

Q: For a guy in his mid 20’s who lives in NYC, what would you say are the bare minimum requirements for fitness/physique (12% bf?), income ($5k/m?), and logistics (have your own place?) in order to have a dating life like yours?

I think you’d wanna be making 6 figures to live comfortably in New York. Unless you are pretty frugal and have a good living situation. So try 10k/mo. I’m not sure what body fat I am personally but I don’t think it matters much. Just don’t be fat. Feel confident in yourself. Whatever that takes for every person is different. But in general I find lean is good and working out makes you feel good, confident and healthy. Then yeah you’d want to have a place. I personally have 2 roommates so I don’t think roommates are an issue. Dating takes time so you need to free up a bit of time mainly.

Q: On a weight loss journey now, looking to lose 100lbs. What strategy should I focus on to compensate for looks?

Can’t do much to compensate for it. Not sure what you mean exactly. I say do still be dating and learning while losing weight, working on your business, health, etc. Lose weight and you will notice a big difference in your results both online and in person. Yes you can still work on approaching, being confident, funny, etc, but losing weight is probably the biggest lever you can pull to be honest.

Q: Should I invite straight to the house? Or pick a spot to meet close by?

I wouldn’t usually invite them straight to the house. Picking a spot nearby then pulling to yours after a drink or two is usually the best and most consistent option.

Q: I currently doordash and meet a lot of women through there at their workplaces. Any tips on creating value through communication?

Being relaxed, having the ability to carry a conversation (keep talking), humor, being selective, stating your opinions, having strong opinions, flirting, being playful, taking initiative, being assertive, confident. These are all traits that will convey value. For more on this check out my ebook Frames . I will be posting this on my Substack for paid subscribers in the next week or two, though.

Q: Hinge Review - Maximus

I personally don’t get much inbound on Hinge. My strategy revolved around reaching out to girls first. So I can't give you advice there. However on the pics, your last pic is a little strange I think you can do better. The selfie you look kinda angry. Seems like you need more photos to choose from. Have someone take a bunch of you and then also try to take a better selfie. The profile all has an ominous / serious tone. Try to make it more fun.

Q: Hinge Review - Zak

This is why I don’t like to use photographers for shots. The profile has an AI / model shot feel to it. I’m not saying you did use it but potentially. I like candid iPhone more. Unless you’re doing a legit cool model shot. But most average professional photographers probably won’t be able to do it. So iPhone probably will come out more normal, less try hard and better. The pics do look good but just too many modeling shots. iPhone.

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